How many times have you seen the words “No Fems” on a guy’s profile and wondered if that applied to you? And how many times have you tried downplaying your “gayness” even when in the company of other gay men?
For a lot of the modern gay black men, a big part of being gay is still seeming straight and I can’t help but wonder, why do we entertain this demeanor? Do they hope/believe that we will be attracted to it, as if we’re part-time actors waiting for our big break: meeting a masculine guy who will accept and complete us?
What do you think? Are modern gay black men obsessed with seeming straight?