One of the worst feelings in the world is to think your partner might be cheating on you. If you’re convinced, or, need some sort of proof, you might want to work with a professional to get some support and advice. If, however, you’re still in the “I’m not sure, maybe they’re cheating?” mode, you’ve come to the right place.
In order to recognize the signs of cheating, you’ll first need to know what to look out for. Read on for a list of the most common signs of cheating, including online affairs.
Sudden Changes In Their Sex Drive? They Might Be Cheating
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Different people react differently in bed when they are cheating; some people will want more sex with their partner when having liaisons outside of a committed relationship, whereas many others will have sex with much less frequency. Another sexual indicator that your partner may be cheating is if they suddenly bring new moves into the bedroom, or if they ask you to try things that were previously off-limits, very adventurous compared to your normal sexual escapades, or out of character.
Is Your Partner Overly Defensive Of Late? They Might Be Cheating
Sometimes cheating partners will take out their anger and frustration on the person they are being unfaithful to. Be aware of when your girlfriend or boyfriend starts to pick fights with you, or accuses you of strange behaviors to deflect their own actions.
For instance, if suddenly your partner accuses you of cheating, take note. If, of course, they seem to have valid reasons as to why, of course talk honestly and openly with them – you’ve been wondering the same thing about them!
Still, this is a time for reasonableness, not, defensiveness or arguing. Be vulnerable. Share your fears. If they explode, refuse to believe you or ask for proof, it’s time to start asking yourself what it is they’re really trying to bring into the light, or, in turn, hide.
Have They Started Hiding Things From You? They Might Be Cheating
Frequent phone hang-ups, hiding credit card statements, or quickly changing what’s up on the computer screen when you walk by may all be signs of a cheating partner. (see: Is Talking Online Considered Cheating?)
Like the slide before this one, hiding things is closely tied to trying to make mountains out of molehills. Meaning, your partner deflects, makes a big deal out of things, or otherwise tries to get your attention anywhere other than whatever it was they were doing.
If you’re already feeling insecure, mistrustful or otherwise off about whether they’re cheating on you, you might take the bait and fall right into the trap. Instead, focus on centering yourself, making sure you’re in the healthiest possible place, and then see if your partner is really hiding something, or if they’re just insecure themselves.
Getting Unexpected Gifts? They Might Be Cheating on You
Your partner may be feeling rather guilty for cheating on you. So while unexpected gifts can be more of a romantic gesture (i.e. I want to reconnect, I didn’t do anything, it’s time that we really appreciated each other), it can also signify they’re trying to appease their own conscience. Therefore, some people use flowers, chocolates or other “just because” romantic gifts to make themselves feel better about their infidelities.
Wait a minute – you’ve been able to get a hold of your partner while they’re at work, out with friends, or when they’re away on business in the past. Suddenly, you can’t seem to get a hold of them no matter what you do. What’s up?
If this isn’t already the norm in your relationship, and, the other things on this list apply, I’d be very wary about approaching your partner. There has to be a good excuse as to why their phone is now off for long periods and why they don’t answer your calls or reply to your texts – especially if this was a rare occurrence before.
Extra “points” for not attending events they used to regularly, including group gatherings with mutual friends.
Are They Really Cheating? What To Do Now
None of these signs of cheating are guarantees that you are being cheated on. However, if several of these signs of cheating are currently present in your relationship, it may be time to sit down and talk with your partner before jumping to any conclusions. Alternatively, speak with a counselor or trusted friend about your concerns, and see if you can come up with a plan to communicate your concerns clearly, lovingly and honestly.
You’ll have a much better chance of finding out the truth of the situation if you’re open, willing and able to put your own fears to the side, and just focus on being your best, most loving Self.