Are you fully present and awake in your life? Are you aware of what’s going on around you and of your own behaviour? And would you know if you weren’t?
Let’s play a game. Think of a word to describe yourself and then let’s put that word under the microscope for a bit of good, ol’ fashioned analysis.
I’ll start, shall I?
I’m going to go with: easy going. I like to think of myself (interesting phrase, right?) as being a laid back, chilled kind of guy. While I’m not impervious to the stresses of modern life, I generally find myself pretty calm and pretty happy. In other words, easy going.
But would my parter agree? Or my friends and family? Or could they all point out instances where I am in fact, anything but easy going. Like the time I got angry about….Or when I flipped out at…..Or the bad mood I was in recently…..
Now this is where it gets interesting. Faced with evidence contrary to my preferred view of myself, how do I respond? Would I take the observations of those closest to me, those that know me best, and thoughtfully consider them? Or would I be dismissive and possibly defensive, looking to focus on the flaws of those casting aspersions? Shooting the proverbial messenger, if you will.
There’s a good chance that I, like I’m guessing most people, would probably opt for the latter option. For some reason, we humans don’t like to deal with things that disagree with or disrupt how we see things. We seem to cling to a need to be right, over the need to see things objectively and for how they really all.
So, back to you now. How well do you know yourself for who you truly are, as opposed to who you’d like to be? And how willing are you to put your self-beliefs to the test?