When in the gay community we often forget we are moving into another realm, one that asks us to drop our baggage and surrender. For better or worse, much of the world we experience is dominated and controlled by human beings. We spend our days in houses, cars, and buildings, and inside these structures, we are in control. We assert our wills and manipulate our environment. Within the context of the human world, this is natural. However, we often carry this attitude with us into the world of our community. We forget as we enter the gay club, or sit on the edge of the bar, that we are moving into another realm, one that asks us to drop our baggage and surrender to a different sense of order and meaning.
When we move from our everyday world into the world of the gay community, we may not even notice at first. We might continue talking loudly into our cell phone or to a friend that is with us. We might walk quickly as if we are on a busy street, our eyes downcast, our thoughts hectic and hurried. In the best case, if we are sensitive to our environment, we will soon notice that it has changed. We may hear the calls of our brothers that are in pain, or the energy of those that gone before us moving through us. If we notice the shift, we will naturally shift as well. If we don’t, we may get all the way through a beautiful park without seeing/feeling anything. Next time you find yourself in the presence of those within the community, try to move into a receptive state of openness and listening, no matter how much or how little time you have. Allow yourself to be captivated and calmed by the energy of the community.
We need to preserve pockets of the gay community because of the magic that can be felt in its presence. It reminds us of our smallness and calls us back to a deeper, quieter part of ourselves. When we honor the gay community by being respectful in its presence, we honor the mystery and wild beauty of our origin.