Sex positions are often the go-to tip for spicing up your sex life with a partner. But when it comes to our solo sex lives, that is, masturbation, finding the right sex position isn’t usually something you think about.
Maybe this is because we think about masturbation for its functional benefits and not an expression of love or lust or creativity. This is too bad because sometimes masturbation might be about a quickie with yourself, but it also can be an opportunity for self-care and self-love.
What position you are in may not be the first thing you think about when masturbating, but the ways we hold our bodies when we masturbate matter. For example, many of us keep very stiff when we masturbate, and only relax once we have climaxed. This impacts how the sex we’re having with ourselves feels.
There are countless of variations, but here are some basic ideas to spark your imagination.
Stretch and Relax
The antidote for those who tense up and never move. Before you begin, lie on your back and stretch your arms and legs out as far as possible, making your body into an “X” shape. Try to hold the stretch for ten seconds. Do this a few times before you masturbate. As you masturbate try to keep your body stretched out as much as is comfortable, think about it as if you are trying to take up as much space on the bed as you can.
Knees Bent/Hips Open
This is a classic position for masturbation.
Lie on your back with your feet on the floor and knees bent. Focus on how your hips feel, and the different kinds of hip movements that are comfortable and possible in this position. A variation of this position is to bring your knees close to your chest. This position is all about rocking your hips and opening them up to the energy that is created as you masturbate.
On Your Knees
This may seem like an odd position but that is partly the point. Find a comfortable position on your knees, with a pillow underneath them. Try it with your body upright, as if standing on your knees. Be on your knees but leaning back resting on your calves You can even try to masturbate while on your hands and knees (although you’ll probably have at least one hand occupied, so be careful with your balance). The point is to see how masturbation and orgasm feel in these different positions.
Heels over Head
Not everyone will be flexible enough for this masturbation sex position, but you can experiment with variations that will work for you. Lie on your back and bring your legs up so that they are pointing to your head. You can keep your legs together or spread them apart, you can bend your knees or keep them straight. In this position, you have access not just to your genitals but also your sides, your behind, and your legs. Put a pillow under your hips
Half On/Half Off
This position is designed to get you playing with gravity. In this position, you want to have part of your body on a flat surface (like a bed or the floor) and another part of your body at a different level. So you might lie on your back near a wall with your legs up on the wall.
Or try lying on your stomach at the edge of the bed with your waist and legs off the bed. Or masturbate while sitting up completely straight, so that your upper torso is sitting up and your lower body is lying flat.
Dancing on the Walls
Lie on your back either on the bed or the floor, but right by a wall. Position your waist so that your bum is right by the wall, and raise your legs going straight up the wall (it’s like that “bicycle” exercise position). A variation of this is to keep your bum slightly away from the wall and put your feet flat against the wall with your knees bent (so that when you push with your feet you are moving your body away from the wall). This position is another good one for exploring hip movements, and you can experiment with pushing against the wall with your feet as you masturbate.
All Curled Up and Nowhere to Go
This position for masturbation is about drawing your body in on itself. You can curl up on your side, on your back, or on your hands and knees. In each position, your genitals are still exposed and it’s easiest to use a sex toy for masturbating in these positions. You may not notice much while masturbating in this position, but once you’ve finished, stretch out, and pay close attention to how your body feels.