We have so many worries today, and I guarantee you most of them have to do with our self-worth. It鈥檚 easy to make everything personal, especially when we鈥檙e always comparing ourselves to others. But when that special man comes, he changes everything. It鈥檚 as if he stops the universe from expanding, and pulls us close to him to make us forget we鈥檙e human. Before we know it, we stop worrying about everything, including these:

#1) You鈥檙e running out of time.

Everything happens when we鈥檙e ready, even love. Sometimes we reflect on all the circumstances we might have rejected love or were too scared to embrace it, and use that as a weight to keep us down. We always think we鈥檙e running out of time, but once we find the one, we realize it was because we were ready for it. Had we met him five years prior we wouldn鈥檛 have seen it. All the heartache, upsets, ups and downs bought us clarity, which acts as currency for spotting chemistry.

#2) Comparing yourself to people who seem 鈥渂etter.鈥

We all have a knack for comparison, but he makes us feel one of a kind. A comfortable relationship should always feel like you鈥檙e excluded from the world. It鈥檚 you and him alone; nothing can touch the passion you have for each other. Comparison is pointless because your man makes you know that nothing compares to you.

#3) The lies you鈥檝e told for so long will pile up and bury you.

The goal for most human beings is to live a life of authenticity, but sometimes we start lying in order to make ourselves likable by society. It starts small then builds into something ongoing; sometimes we tell the lies for so long we forget what the truth is. But when you meet someone who鈥檚 worthy of your real identity, little by little the lies drain away. The need to pretend is gone because at last you鈥檝e found someone who will accept even the darkest of secrets.

#4) Creating problems out of nothing.

When you鈥檝e been hurt in the past, you always expect to be hurt again. The trouble with that is it convinces you to search for problems even when there鈥檚 no evidence for it. A good man gives you no reason to distrust him in the first place because he鈥檚 an open book. A good man understands that trust is one of your worries, and consistently affirms his devotion. A good man also allows you to vent about the little things in your life so that you can relieve anxiety before self-made problems arise.

#5) Never settling for anything less than perfect.

One of the biggest disappointments in life is discovering that no one is going to be perfect. Perfection is something society built as a blueprint to shape our lives in order to be put on display. It isn鈥檛 perfection we want, but authenticity. When we meet a guy who is totally compatible with what we are in every possible way, chances are he isn鈥檛 what society deems 鈥減erfect,鈥 but he鈥檚 perfect to聽us. There鈥檚 a difference.

#6) You鈥檒l lose the spark.

Relationships are up and down. It鈥檚 rare to find a guy who maintains a consistent stream of passion for years on end. But even during the lowest of lows, there is a foundation firmly planted that cannot be denied. That鈥檚 the spark. He makes you smile and forget the fact that you鈥檙e mad at him. He makes you want to be a better person. He makes you feel wanted and valuable, and never makes you second question any of it.

#7) Caring about what insignificant people think.

There鈥檚 tremendous clarity that comes with age, and one of the best is the gift of not giving any f*cks anymore, especially relating to unimportant people. You learn not to sweat the small things. When you鈥檙e a part of a duo, you hardly need a reason to care. He reminds you that the only things worrying about are him, yourself, your family and your closest friends. Everyone else can go f*ck themselves.

#8) You鈥檒l never match up to him.

The worry of never being able to match up to his job, his looks or his family disappears. While at first he seems like a superhero, the truth of the matter is you both balance each other out. His affirmation gives you peace and makes you forget to look at what you or he has that the other doesn鈥檛. It doesn鈥檛 matter because you have each other.

#9) You鈥檒l lose interest quickly.

You didn鈥檛 think it was possible, but you finally met a man who is always interesting. The reason for this is probably because he feels so comfortable around that he isn鈥檛 pressured to be a one-trick pony. He鈥檚 never going to always be 鈥渙n.鈥 Sometimes he鈥檒l be way off center, other times you will have parallel energies. No matter what, you鈥檒l never know what to expect.

#10) Perhaps a husband isn鈥檛 in the cards for you.

For the longest time you thought that having a husband wasn鈥檛 in the cards, until finally you meet a guy who changes your mind. It feels like you aren鈥檛 trying, like you don鈥檛 need to lie to yourself anymore, like it鈥檚 okay to want something stable in your life. Kids in your head didn鈥檛 seem realistic, but a family with聽him聽is so real you can鈥檛 stop smiling about it.



2 Comments Add yours

  1. PDQ says:

    So true.

    Don’t look for love, let it happen on its own.

    Don’t write out a “My ideal man must have/be/own” type list. Just get out there and meet people.

    Opposites really DO attract and your individual strengths will offset each other’s weaknesses – which leads to a stronger partnership.

    He needs to be your BEST FRIEND first and foremost. You need to help each other through deaths of family and friends, career and financial successes and setbacks, health issues, etc. You need to be able to talk openly and honestly with each other about ANYTHING..

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  2. renudepride says:

    A very great post, my blogging brother and so very true! When you least expect it, love does happen and when it’s mutual the world does turn upside down and what was once important loses its luster. Thank you for sharing this! 馃檪 Naked hugs!

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