I’m grateful to know a lot of smart, capable gay men. Sadly, many of these smart, capable men have committed themselves to guys who are clueless, emotionally unavailable, or just plain jerks. How does this happen so often?
Of course, gay men aren’t the only ones who deal with this phenomenon, this problem runs across all lines of gender and sexuality. No matter who you are or who you’re attracted to, it’s more than plausible that you’ve gotten together with someone who’s straight-up bad for you (and probably on more than one occasion).
Why do we do this? How do lovely people wind up with such unlovely mates?