Because life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there are persons whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to enjoy what the community has to offer. A disruptive person causes rules to be imposed that affect everyone’s lives. One “bad apple” in our community can be a potent distraction that makes it difficult to focus on the positive and great things.
Nonetheless, there are always people with the community who take it upon themselves to create disruption, foster chaos, stamp out hope, and act as if they are above reproach even when, in doing so, they put a blight on their own experiences. But we don’t need to allow their negativity and callousness to sour our good mood. Often, the first impulse upon coming head-to-head with bad apples is to express our anger and frustration in no uncertain terms. However, these persons only have the power to turn our lives sour if we let them.
If you can exercise patience and choose not to respond to their words or actions, you will significantly limit the effect they are able to have on you and our environment. You can also attempt to encourage them to change their behavior by letting your good behavior stand as an example. While you may be tempted to simply disassociate yourself entirely from persons like these, consider why they might be inclined to cause disturbances. Understanding their motivation can help you see that these “bad apples” are not necessarily bad people. Though bad apples are a fact of life, minimizing the impact you allow them to have upon you is empowering because you are not letting anyone else affect the quality of your experiences. You may
discover that buried at the very heart of a bad apple is a seed of goodness.