LIFE IS CONTRADICTORY…

Get use to it, and be aware as well as letting go of confusion and resistance to challenges. What seems nice, may have hidden aspects that aren’t so nice. Reality isn’t flat or black and white. Good sometimes contains bad and even that is open to differing perceptions. Awareness needs one to see all sides,…

CELEBRATING THE IN-BETWEEN TIMES…THE JOYS OF BEING IN THE COMMUNITY

Real life most often happens during the in-between times, when we are not celebrating a special occasion. While celebrations are intended to honor life’s more momentous occasions, much of real life tends to happen during the in-between times. While moving from one moment in time to the next is seldom considered a significant occurrence, it…

GAY PORN STAR HITS BACK @ CRITICISM OF USE OF N-WORD

Gay porn star Bruno Bernal has defended his use of the N-word, saying critics should ‘grow a thicker skin and be less sensitive.’ The 31-year-old from Brazil initially caused offence by using the term to describe his African American barber. In an Instagram story posted on Monday 23 July, he wrote: ‘Worse thing in life!…

¡THE STIGMA OF HIV & AIDS CANNOT HIDE!

There are many reasons gay men are so strongly associated with stigma of HIV. Some have to do with tired stereotypes, making it so easy to hide one’s status. Despite the focus on stigmatizing the image of HIV, can the stigma of HIV be used to create a safe space to express our sexuality as…

¿’TOP’ PRIVILEGE? LET’S TALK…

The top and bottom dichotomy is something we gay men are intimately aware of. It’s something that’s spawned a lot of biases and preconceived notions, some of which most gay guys believe in without thinking twice about it. Do you guys believe that tops enjoy privileges that bottoms don’t? Do you think that tops expect…