WRITING ‘MASC4MASC’ ON YOUR PROFILE DOESN’T NECESSARILY MEAN YOU’RE A SELF-HATING GAY, BLOGGER ARGUES

7th-Man-Magazine-Ben-Parks-07“Masc4Masc.” Is it a sign of internalized homophobia or not? In a new think piece published by  Huffington Post, writer Jeremy Helligar offers his two cents on the matter.

“Gay men can be obsessive when it comes to categorizing themselves,” Helligar writes, “especially when they hit the hook-up grid. ‘Masc,’ ‘fem,’ ‘top,’ ‘bottom,’ ‘hung,’ ‘sub,’ ‘dom,’ ‘twink,’ ‘bear,’ otter,’ daddy,’ ‘BBC.’”

Which leads us to the dreaded “Masc4Masc.”

recent study published in Computers in Humans Behavior titled “Masculine Guys Online” surveyed 144 gay and bisexual men about their online dating habits and found that the majority of them viewed guys who write things like “Masc4Masc as “significantly less intelligent, significantly less sexually confident, and significantly less dateable than their counterparts.”

But Helligar asks:

“Masc4Masc” may be both misguided and dismissive of anyone who swings too close to the crusty gay stereotype, but is it indicative of self-hating internalized homophobia as its critics often suggest? By publicly identifying as “masculine” and seeking the same, is one somehow rejecting his own gayness?

Helligar says not necessarily. He argues that describing oneself as “masculine” is no better or worse than describing oneself as “feminine.” And no one seems to take any issue when a gay man describes himself a femme.

“Masculine is as legitimate a gay quality as feminine,” he argues. “In fact, it’s been a cornerstone of gay culture for decades.”

Helligar explains:

In the post-Stonewall 1970s, Tom of Finland-style masculinity practically defined gay culture, whether it was aspirational, celebratory, or closer to parody. Chest hair and handlebar mustaches were hot, and The Village People dominated the disco soundtrack. Remember the most successful gay pop act of the era? The music was unabashedly gay while the members represented some of the most masculine male identities: cop, cowboy, construction worker, military man, leather-clad biker, etc.

Being into guys like this, Helligar says, is different from internalized homophobia or self-hatred.

“We spend so much time and effort rallying against gay stereotypes,” he writes, “but aren’t we only reinforcing them when we suggest that to desire masculine men is to somehow be anti-gay?”

“Masc4Masc” might not be sending the best message to gay guys who don’t qualify, but dismissing “Masc4Masc” as being anti-gay isn’t sending a particularly healthy message to gay guys who do qualify. We’re all men, and we’re all gay. Equating gay with feminine or flamboyant or camp does as much of a disservice to gay people as rejecting those qualities. It’s like expecting a black person to “act hip hop.”

After all, Helligar writes, “there’s no one way to be gay.”

What do you think? Does Helligar have a point?

SOURCE: QUEERTY

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One Comment Add yours

  1. Patrick says:

    I am not nor do I prefer femmes. I am a masculine gay bottom and I prefer masculine men. Not to hide it is just MY preference, it does not have to be anyone else’s.

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