THE 7th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: CELEBRATING THE END

The intention behind this entry is to offer some food for thought to contemplate certain topics more deeply and perhaps discuss more openly when social etiquette considers them uncomfortable or even taboo. This year alone many of us have tackled insecurities, judgment, identity, and forgiveness, among many other subjects, and now, as the year is…

THE 6th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: COMPASSION FOR SELF

So often we are sabotaging ourselves by being in our own way without even knowing we are doing so.  During those times when our lives are filled with what seems to be constant change and growth, it is important to remember that we need to be gentle with ourselves. Since it can be easy to…

THE 5th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: ALLOWING FORGIVENESS TO MOVE YOU FORWARD

We’ve made plenty of bad decisions in our lives.  A few judgment calls that were damaging to our well-being, and many unwise choices ended up unintentionally hurting others in some way. Many of us don’t have a problem apologizing to people for my wrongdoings and promising to be more mindful in the future to never…

THE 4th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: STEPPING OUTSIDE OF LABELS

Ever since infancy, we have rapidly developed an advanced mental filing system to make the world less overwhelming: we notice something, we cross-reference it with everything that is already familiar to us, and quickly label it as either Harmless or Dangerous, Cute or Scary, and so on. But where do those labels come from? One…

THE 3rd GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: RE-THINKING SELF TALK

It was just a matter of ignoring the negative voices chattering in the backs of our heads, and giving our power to the positive possibilities in front of us.  What happens when you tell yourself things like, “I don’t have what it takes” or “I’m not ready yet”? It certainly doesn’t lead to success. A…

ZACH STAFFORD, FORMERLY OF GRINDR, NOW THE ADVOCATE’S FIRST BLACK EIC

Zach Stafford, former chief content officer of Grindr, has been announced as the incoming editor-in-chief of The Advocate. The move makes Stafford, who was also the editor-in-chief of the Grindr-owned publication Into, the second executive to leave the company in the past few weeks. Both departures follow Grindr president Scott Chen making headlines for statements about his views on marriage…