GAY MEN & FRIENDSHIP: THE ELUSIVE GOAL?

I would like to know your opinion on a delicate subject, friendship with other gay men. It is something that too many of us have a hard time with. I’m not talking about party friends, or friends to go for a coffee with, I’m talking about real friends, TRUE gay friends. Friends that you know more…

SOCIAL MEDIA HATE & GAY MEN…

We can all agree that online hate and trolling sucks. But when it happens to sexy, provocative and “out there” gay guys, do our attitudes about it change? Can we honestly talk about the double standard between our thoughts about online hate? I’m sure we can all agree that we as gay men experiencing online…

PRIDE, LOVE & GAY MEN

Finding a fuckbuddy, a hookup, making friends are all easier than finding love during pride month. Am I right? To find love, not only you need to be attracted to the person physically, but also mentally and sometimes even spiritually! During pride month, I feel it is even harder than any other time (depending on…

¿WHY CAN’T GAY MEN COMMUNICATE?

There’s a common misconception that gay men can’t hold down a relationship or that they jump from boyfriend to boyfriend always looking for the next best thing. We of course know that’s not true. Many gay men are in long-term relationships, have civil partnerships or are married. However, I find that the most common misconception…

ANYTHING THAT MOVES: GAY MEN & DATING…

“Anything That Moves”—is the reputed three-word philosophy of most of us gay men in terms of dating. When you “gay date” there is a perception that as a gay guy you can have whomever you want, whenever you want, and for whatever motive. BUT this is rarely true. When you throw a look or smile at…

¿ARE YOU THE GAY MAN OTHERS THINK YOU ARE?

Do you see yourself as the gay man others think you are? Many of us have the ability to bypass our wounded selves and see what our essence is. Are you connected with your essence? Do you own the qualities others see in you, or do you define yourself by your wounded self? Is there…

BE A CATCH FOR HIM…

Sometimes you meet a guy and you hit it off. Best moment in your life, you’re even stuck asking where have this man been all this time? It’s so perfect, you drop all other guys and communication for him. He shows tons of interest in you and you think you found bae. You give him…

🍆 IT’S ALL ABOUT THE ‘BBC’ 🍆

Size generally matters in the gay meat market, regardless of racial considerations, but when the curiosity and expectations so often attached to dark meat raises the ick factor, how does one determine their level of grotesque? Why are gay black men objectified so much? Ask most gay black men and they’d tell you how they…

D!CK PICS…🍆

Are your dick pics getting him into your bed? Many gay men aren’t getting hard over dick pics. Are you one of those men? Do you drool over a dick pic or do say no thanks and keep it moving?

HE WANTS SEX MORE THAN HE WANTS YOUR HEART…

You meet a guy, you both share a lot in common. He talk sweet nothings to you, you blush. Then he finds out you are practicing celibacy for a year or two and goes missing. Why when a man comes lusting hard, he goes ‘ghost’ on you when he can’t get to your body? The…

¿WHY DO OPEN RELATIONSHIPS LEAVE SUCH A BAD TASTE IN MOUTHS OF GAY MEN?

Can you love someone but fuck another guy? The answers to  such a question would be mixed, with some calling gay men in open relationships greedy and selfish while others will say it’s up to people in relationships to define what their relationships are. Whether you think being in open to open relationships comes with…