EMBRACING, NOT JUST ACCEPTING AGEING

As my 36th birthday approaches, I feel happier and healthier than ever. I’ve gone from accepting ageing to actually embracing, heck even looking forward to it! I mean, why should I succumb to the media-led, youth-obsessed culture we live in that seeks to only canonise the newest, latest and freshest? If I were to limit…

WRITING ‘MASC4MASC’ ON YOUR PROFILE DOESN’T NECESSARILY MEAN YOU’RE A SELF-HATING GAY, BLOGGER ARGUES

“Masc4Masc.” Is it a sign of internalized homophobia or not? In a new think piece published by  Huffington Post, writer Jeremy Helligar offers his two cents on the matter. “Gay men can be obsessive when it comes to categorizing themselves,” Helligar writes, “especially when they hit the hook-up grid. ‘Masc,’ ‘fem,’ ‘top,’ ‘bottom,’ ‘hung,’ ‘sub,’ ‘dom,’ ‘twink,’ ‘bear,’ otter,’…

5 TIPS FOR GUYS WHO LIKE BIG Ds 🍆

There’s no need to be ashamed about it; a lot of you guys are size queens. We here at Adam4Adam would be the last ones to judge — we’ve asked you guys multiple times to share your big dick stories. But as the recent story about Fredy Alanis shows, you have to be prepared to take on a big dick…

LIFE IS CONTRADICTORY…

Get use to it, and be aware as well as letting go of confusion and resistance to challenges. What seems nice, may have hidden aspects that aren’t so nice. Reality isn’t flat or black and white. Good sometimes contains bad and even that is open to differing perceptions. Awareness needs one to see all sides,…

5 MYTHS ABOUT GAY MONOGAMY

I think gay monogamy is a little misunderstood, especially by gay men themselves. However, this isn’t a ‘Why gay monogamy is better than…’ article. While this article discusses 5 myths about gay monogamy, I’d like to start by saying that I’m not going to, or even trying to, portray open relationships in a bad light. Not at…

¿DO YOU LOVE YOUR D!@K?

Pretty much the only guys that have porn star sized penises are well, porn stars. The rest of us need to learn to love the penis we have. Penis size obsession is everywhere, and its amplified within the gay community. For something that we have relatively no control over (extreme surgical procedures aside), it takes…

18 RULES OF TEXTING ETIQUETTE FOR GAY MEN

It’s 2018. Texting has been a mainstream thing for well over a decade. We should know the rules by now (and yes there are hard and fast rules of texting). But my gay (male) friends and potential boyfriends (if they even acknowledge I exist) still don’t seem to “get” how to text. So I’m laying…

¿THINKING ABOUT OPENING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP? HERE ARE 5 THINGS TO CONSIDER

Open relationships, “don’t ask don’t tell” policies, or inviting a third into the bedroom to spice things up are not uncommon in same-sex partnerships. These things, while still considered taboo in much of the straight world, can really help a couple thrive without feeling they’re being forced into boxes that aren’t representative of who they are.  That…

7 SAVVY & SUCCESSFUL TIPS FOR GAY DATING (& SEX) IN THE 21st CENTURY

Amy Winehouse famously sang, “Love is a losing game”, and she didn’t even have Grindr. With an interest in casual sex and random encounters at an all-time peak, and a dwindling social scene those words have never been truer. Sure, there’s still a large portion of us craving love in a more traditional sense, but…

10 WORRIES THAT DISAPPEAR WHEN YOU FIND THE “ONE”

We have so many worries today, and I guarantee you most of them have to do with our self-worth. It’s easy to make everything personal, especially when we’re always comparing ourselves to others. But when that special man comes, he changes everything. It’s as if he stops the universe from expanding, and pulls us close…

SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION OF BLACK MEN, FROM MAPPLETHORPE TO CALVIN KLEIN

In our current moment there has been considerable debate around what is frequently referred to as “sexual racism,” a term that reacts to the romantic and erotic rejection of men of color by white gay men. These discussions describe, often in detail, the various forms of emotional injury in the digital realm of dating and…

HAPPINESS

Some day, sometime, something’s going to make you wonder where ‘happiness’ has gone! You will wonder why one has to be here and endure events that had better be avoided and, never happened. To know joy, the opposite must be there to draw a contrast and resonance. What unhappiness was created by our own misjudgments…