¿THINKING ABOUT OPENING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP? HERE ARE 5 THINGS TO CONSIDER

Open relationships, “don’t ask don’t tell” policies, or inviting a third into the bedroom to spice things up are not uncommon in same-sex partnerships. These things, while still considered taboo in much of the straight world, can really help a couple thrive without feeling they’re being forced into boxes that aren’t representative of who they are.  That…

7 SAVVY & SUCCESSFUL TIPS FOR GAY DATING (& SEX) IN THE 21st CENTURY

Amy Winehouse famously sang, “Love is a losing game”, and she didn’t even have Grindr. With an interest in casual sex and random encounters at an all-time peak, and a dwindling social scene those words have never been truer. Sure, there’s still a large portion of us craving love in a more traditional sense, but…

10 WORRIES THAT DISAPPEAR WHEN YOU FIND THE “ONE”

We have so many worries today, and I guarantee you most of them have to do with our self-worth. It’s easy to make everything personal, especially when we’re always comparing ourselves to others. But when that special man comes, he changes everything. It’s as if he stops the universe from expanding, and pulls us close…

SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION OF BLACK MEN, FROM MAPPLETHORPE TO CALVIN KLEIN

In our current moment there has been considerable debate around what is frequently referred to as “sexual racism,” a term that reacts to the romantic and erotic rejection of men of color by white gay men. These discussions describe, often in detail, the various forms of emotional injury in the digital realm of dating and…

HAPPINESS

Some day, sometime, something’s going to make you wonder where ‘happiness’ has gone! You will wonder why one has to be here and endure events that had better be avoided and, never happened. To know joy, the opposite must be there to draw a contrast and resonance. What unhappiness was created by our own misjudgments…

5 JACK’D HOOK UP TIPS YOU NEED TO SEE & SHARE RIGHT NOW! [VIDEO]

“If you not sending me a message I can understand how you gon’ get some dick?” Supaman asks. There’s some must see tips for making sure you catfishers out there in the video below. Plus, a special tip for bottoms who brag on their services: “Don’t do all this talking about fucking and you gone…

¿HAVE WE BEEN SOLD ON "LOVE"?

What do we do when we’re in love? Logic seems to get blinded by our infatuation with this other person which then might lead to illogical reasonings. Our attachment, though it makes us feel good, can govern our decision making throughout our time of commitment. We’re swept off our feet – hanging on a thread…

WHY I STOPPED DATING WHITE MEN – BY ANTHONY WILLIAMS

After 26 years as a Black queer man and two separate 2.5-year relationships with white men, 2015 is the year I have decided to stop dating white men indefinitely. While my personal decision not to date white men is the direct result of actually dating white men, the decision is rooted less in my experience with the…

THE GAY BOTTOM DIET

Along with unicorns and leprechauns, the so-called “bottom diet” is always elusive. I’ve been writing this blog for several years. And one of the most popular food-related questions that I get asked is about this very issue. In varying forms, the question goes something like this: What foods can I eat to ensure that I’ll be…

HOW TOP LIKE A STUD!

This column is part one of a new weekly sex-ed series from Woody Miller, sex advice columnist, and author of the best-selling book, How to Bottom Like a Porn Star and How To Top Like A Stud: A Penetrating Guide to Gay Sex. This series combines porn industry secrets with innovative techniques from the latest…

MAKING GAY FRIENDS AFTER 30 (PART III)

My quest to make new gay friends – after turning the big 3-0 – has in some ways, come full circle. (Feel free to catch up with Part1 and Part 2 here). I’ve gone from not having gay friends, but wanting to have some. To actively seeking and making gay friends, but it wasn’t as good as I thought it would be….