5 MYTHS ABOUT GAY MONOGAMY

I think gay monogamy is a little misunderstood, especially by gay men themselves. However, this isn’t a ‘Why gay monogamy is better than…’ article. While this article discusses 5 myths about gay monogamy, I’d like to start by saying that I’m not going to, or even trying to, portray open relationships in a bad light. Not at…

¿DO YOU LOVE YOUR D!@K?

Pretty much the only guys that have porn star sized penises are well, porn stars. The rest of us need to learn to love the penis we have. Penis size obsession is everywhere, and its amplified within the gay community. For something that we have relatively no control over (extreme surgical procedures aside), it takes…

18 RULES OF TEXTING ETIQUETTE FOR GAY MEN

It’s 2018. Texting has been a mainstream thing for well over a decade. We should know the rules by now (and yes there are hard and fast rules of texting). But my gay (male) friends and potential boyfriends (if they even acknowledge I exist) still don’t seem to “get” how to text. So I’m laying…

¿THINKING ABOUT OPENING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP? HERE ARE 5 THINGS TO CONSIDER

Open relationships, “don’t ask don’t tell” policies, or inviting a third into the bedroom to spice things up are not uncommon in same-sex partnerships. These things, while still considered taboo in much of the straight world, can really help a couple thrive without feeling they’re being forced into boxes that aren’t representative of who they are.  That…

7 SAVVY & SUCCESSFUL TIPS FOR GAY DATING (& SEX) IN THE 21st CENTURY

Amy Winehouse famously sang, “Love is a losing game”, and she didn’t even have Grindr. With an interest in casual sex and random encounters at an all-time peak, and a dwindling social scene those words have never been truer. Sure, there’s still a large portion of us craving love in a more traditional sense, but…

10 WORRIES THAT DISAPPEAR WHEN YOU FIND THE “ONE”

We have so many worries today, and I guarantee you most of them have to do with our self-worth. It’s easy to make everything personal, especially when we’re always comparing ourselves to others. But when that special man comes, he changes everything. It’s as if he stops the universe from expanding, and pulls us close…

SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION OF BLACK MEN, FROM MAPPLETHORPE TO CALVIN KLEIN

In our current moment there has been considerable debate around what is frequently referred to as “sexual racism,” a term that reacts to the romantic and erotic rejection of men of color by white gay men. These discussions describe, often in detail, the various forms of emotional injury in the digital realm of dating and…

HAPPINESS

Some day, sometime, something’s going to make you wonder where ‘happiness’ has gone! You will wonder why one has to be here and endure events that had better be avoided and, never happened. To know joy, the opposite must be there to draw a contrast and resonance. What unhappiness was created by our own misjudgments…

5 JACK’D HOOK UP TIPS YOU NEED TO SEE & SHARE RIGHT NOW! [VIDEO]

“If you not sending me a message I can understand how you gon’ get some dick?” Supaman asks. There’s some must see tips for making sure you catfishers out there in the video below. Plus, a special tip for bottoms who brag on their services: “Don’t do all this talking about fucking and you gone…

¿HAVE WE BEEN SOLD ON "LOVE"?

What do we do when we’re in love? Logic seems to get blinded by our infatuation with this other person which then might lead to illogical reasonings. Our attachment, though it makes us feel good, can govern our decision making throughout our time of commitment. We’re swept off our feet – hanging on a thread…

WHY I STOPPED DATING WHITE MEN – BY ANTHONY WILLIAMS

After 26 years as a Black queer man and two separate 2.5-year relationships with white men, 2015 is the year I have decided to stop dating white men indefinitely. While my personal decision not to date white men is the direct result of actually dating white men, the decision is rooted less in my experience with the…