HIV: ¿HOW DO WE MOVE OUR HEARTS & MINDS?

HIV ad campaigns, whether encouraging people to get tested, treated, or learn about PrEP presumably want to encourage people to take action, but they rarely capture what actually motivates gay men.   As our community brainstorms how future efforts could better educate gay men, we must draw from past failures and successes in social marketing, and…

LOVE N’ DATING IN TIMES OF HIV (STILL)

Many of HIV’s limitations are limitations that we impose on ourselves. The pool of available dating material, for instance, doesn’t have to be limited to only other HIV-positive partners. If you’re HIV-positive, sure, some  people will be frightened away by HIV, but there are HIV negative people out there willing to overlook an HIV status….

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: PrEP-ARATION FOR SEX…

My boyfriend wants to fuck me raw.  Though he hasn’t said it yet, eventually he will. Right now, however, he is just a tapestry of hints and subtleties. He asks me if he can just put the head in. He says he just wants to loosen me before slipping on the condom. I flinch as…

30 YEARS OF WORLD AIDS DAYS & STILL NO VACCINE

I mentioned to a friend, a gay man nearing 60, that World AIDS Day, which has been observed on Dec. 1 since 1988, was almost upon us. He had no idea that World AIDS Day still exists. This lack of knowledge is a testament to the great accomplishments that have occurred since World AIDS Day was…

HIV: BRINGING THE COMMUNITY OUT OF THE FOGGY HAZE

The community has fallen into a fog because of HIV and we are still waiting for the the sun to shine bright for us all.  For far too long we’ve been muddled and unfocused, unsure of which way to turn. HIV has been a fog that prevented us from seeing where we’re going or where we’ve…

¡HEY GAY MEN: HIV/AIDS IS NOT A ‘GAY THING’!

We’re all typical gay men to some degree. We enjoy partying, social meet ups, new friends and of course lots and lots of sex. Show me a gay man who hasn’t had a one night stand in their time and I would be very surprised. For many of us one night stands are a time…

NATIONAL GAY MEN’S HIV/AIDS AWARENESS DAY 2018

Thursday, September 27, marks National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NGMHAAD) 2018. This year’s theme is “The Conversation About HIV Is Changing.” This is a reference to the tools we have to end the epidemic in the United States, including treatment and prevention. Notably, we now know that people with HIV who take meds and…

HIV: A CHANGE IN ATTITUDE

Life with HIV, do you think we can most gay men to understand the struggles that others are facing? Why? Because, it costs us nothing to be human and many others are struggling on the inside or have issues that have no “public face.” Unless we’ve been told, we cannot tell by looking at each…

¡THE STIGMA OF HIV & AIDS CANNOT HIDE!

There are many reasons gay men are so strongly associated with stigma of HIV. Some have to do with tired stereotypes, making it so easy to hide one’s status. Despite the focus on stigmatizing the image of HIV, can the stigma of HIV be used to create a safe space to express our sexuality as…

NATIONAL HIV TESTING DAY

National HIV Testing Day is an annual occasion to encourage people to get an HIV test. CDC recommends that everyone between the ages of 13 and 64 get tested for HIV at least once as part of routine health care. People with certain risk factors should get tested more often. People who test HIV positive…