SEEING OUR BEAUTIFUL QUEER SELVES…

Many of us do not take the time to notice and acknowledge how beautiful we are as same gender loving individuals. We may be great lovers of beauty, seeing it in the people, places, and things around us, while completely missing it in ourselves. Some of us feel that it is vain to consider our…

BEING YOUR OWN GAY VOICE OF REASON

How we attach meaning to events in our lives has a large influence on the quality of our life. The meaning we assign to our experiences–whether pleasant or distressing, is a very powerful factor in determining the quality of our lives. What we imagine events to mean will color the way we feel about ourselves,…

WHEN WE DON’T TAKE ACTION BEYOND 🏳️‍🌈 PRIDE 🏳️‍🌈

Our actions shape our lives, but what we don’t take action on can be just as powerful. Life is sculpted on a moment-to-moment basis. Every one of the thoughts we think, the words we speak, and the actions we take contributes to the complex quality and character of the universe’s unfolding. It simply is not…

IN AWE OF THE BEAUTY OF PRIDE

All we have to do is look for beauty, and it’s there all around us at any given moment. Beauty speaks to us in soft whispers or bold declarations. It calls on us to gaze in awe at it’s splendor. We are enticed by beauty. We adore her, idolize her, and even court her. Beauty…

WE ARE BEINGS OF PRIDE (BEYOND THE PHYSICAL WORLD)

It is through our connection to our pride that we know things beyond what the visible world can tell us. We are all beings of pride. Put another way, we are spiritual beings having a prideful experience. As children, most of us know this, but other human beings who have forgotten what they really are…

THE GIFT OF DISAPPOINTMENT IS A BRIDGE TO THE QUEER COMMUNITY

The gift of disappointment is to bring us into reality of the world so we don’t get stuck in the realm of how things might have been and accept our rightful place within the queer community. Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, we risk…

PERMISSION TO BE REAL IN THE COMMUNITY

When we present ourselves to the community without a mask and keep it real, we offer the same opportunity for others to do the same. Most of us are familiar with the idea of keeping it real and have an intuitive sense about what that means. People who keep it real don’t hide behind a…

WHEN “BAD APPLES” SPOILS THE BUNCH & SOURS THE COMMUNITY…

Because life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there are persons whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to enjoy what the community has to offer….

WORTHINESS (ACCEPTING OUR CALLING IN THE COMMUNITY)

Our worth of being in the community @ this time cannot be judged as we are all worthy and essential to being here now. The issue of worthiness may come up in many areas of our lives, as we ask, often unconsciously, whether we are worthy of success, love, happiness, and countless other things, from…

SHOWING UP FOR THE COMMUNITY

If you show up for yourself in your community, the universe will show up for you. The way we move within the community says a lot about the way we live our lives. When we move within the community curious about what’s happening, willing to engage, and perceiving ourselves as an active participant with something…

CHANGING ROLES AS WE EBB & FLOW THROUGH THE COMMUNITY

We all change throughout life trying new and different things, but the core of who we really are remains the same. As we bob and weave with the ebb and flow of life our roles change, but our true self remains constant. As gay men, we go through many aspects of humanity in one lifetime….