PLACING GAY MEN ON PEDESTALS

When you put other gay men on pedestals, you are giving away your power and saying you are not good enough. When we fall in love with someone or make a new friend, we sometimes see that person in a glowing light. Their good qualities dominate the foreground of our perception and their negative qualities….

RESPECTING THE GAY COMMUNITY…

When in the gay community we often forget we are moving into another realm, one that asks us to drop our baggage and surrender. For better or worse, much of the world we experience is dominated and controlled by human beings. We spend our days in houses, cars, and buildings, and inside these structures, we are…

¿WHY DO MANY GAY MEN DISLIKE SEEING A BLACK MAN “BOTTOMING” IN PORN?

Ever notice how hard it is to find blacks bottoming for whites in interracial porn? With few exceptions, porn studios seem to think there is only one acceptable way to show interracial sex: The hyperaggressive African-American top and the submissive white bottom. Is gay porn racist? Or is it a benign form of stereotyping? Like…

A LIFE OF LEARNING (THE GAY COMMUNITY)

The gay community provides us with an education of the heart and the soul. this life is the province of learning, and the wisdom we acquire throughout our lives is the reward of existence. As we traverse the winding roads that lead from birth to death, experience is our patient teacher. We exist, bound to…