THE 12th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: FINALLY LETTING GO

If someone had told me that a year ago, I would have been thoroughly convinced that our time wasn’t up yet. I would have been deluded about how toxic you were to me and believed all that you did were for my own good. I would have argued and fought with anyone that tried to…

THE 11th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: TURNING THE HARD LESSON INTO CELEBRATIONS

Whether we initially jump to remember our successes or failures, we should take stock of both the high and low points. The successes and failures allow us to connect with our emotions and deeper learning from those experiences. Though the triumphs prompt us to feel more celebratory towards what we’ve accomplished, we can also train…

THE 10th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: BEING MINDFUL (DON’T WORRY)

We worry about our appearance, missing deadlines, quicksand, shark attacks, killer spiders, and getting mugged (perhaps because we watch too much TV?) It makes me think of the quote by Mark Twain: “I have lived through some terrible things in my life; some of them actually happened.”  While I don’t know if we can ever…

THE 9th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: HAPPINESS & KNOWING WHO YOU ARE

If your happiness depends on something you can lose, you will spend your entire life afraid of losing it. But if your happiness depends on who you are, then everything and everyone in your life can come or go (as they naturally would anyway), and not only would you no longer live in fear of…

THE 8th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: A SENSE OF PURPOSE

Let’s re-evaluate the so-called “obstacles” in our path, without which there would be no journey worth taking. Some people on the spiritual path are compelled to change their lives by finding “more meaningful work in the world,” or cashing out their retirement account to open an orphanage in Africa. Those are noble causes, don’t get…

THE 7th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: CELEBRATING THE END

The intention behind this entry is to offer some food for thought to contemplate certain topics more deeply and perhaps discuss more openly when social etiquette considers them uncomfortable or even taboo. This year alone many of us have tackled insecurities, judgment, identity, and forgiveness, among many other subjects, and now, as the year is…

THE 6th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: COMPASSION FOR SELF

So often we are sabotaging ourselves by being in our own way without even knowing we are doing so.  During those times when our lives are filled with what seems to be constant change and growth, it is important to remember that we need to be gentle with ourselves. Since it can be easy to…

THE 5th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: ALLOWING FORGIVENESS TO MOVE YOU FORWARD

We’ve made plenty of bad decisions in our lives.  A few judgment calls that were damaging to our well-being, and many unwise choices ended up unintentionally hurting others in some way. Many of us don’t have a problem apologizing to people for my wrongdoings and promising to be more mindful in the future to never…

THE 4th GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: STEPPING OUTSIDE OF LABELS

Ever since infancy, we have rapidly developed an advanced mental filing system to make the world less overwhelming: we notice something, we cross-reference it with everything that is already familiar to us, and quickly label it as either Harmless or Dangerous, Cute or Scary, and so on. But where do those labels come from? One…

THE 3rd GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: RE-THINKING SELF TALK

It was just a matter of ignoring the negative voices chattering in the backs of our heads, and giving our power to the positive possibilities in front of us.  What happens when you tell yourself things like, “I don’t have what it takes” or “I’m not ready yet”? It certainly doesn’t lead to success. A…

THE 1st GAY OF 🎄 X-MAS: THE TRUE MEANING OF CHRISTMAS

Christmas has become symbolic of all that is wrong with our society. Much like the Grinch, whose heart was three sizes too small; our hearts have diminished in size due to the culture of fear, conformity, and consumerism in which we reside. As a result, we have lost sight of the true meaning of Christmas,…